Is helping others and pleasing people the same thing? How can you tell the difference? If you’re unsure, I will explain how people-pleasing goes far beyond helping others and how it prevents you from living your dream life.
After reading this post, you’ll be able to recognize when people-pleasing is taking you off the path to reaching your goals and how to fix this counterproductive thought pattern.
What is People-Pleasing?
People pleasers go to tremendous lengths to keep the peace. As a people-pleaser, you prefer to avoid conflict at all costs, which results in your needs being put last.
Some signs of people-pleasing include:
*You have difficulty saying no.
*You want everyone to like you.
*You put everyone else first and have a hard time asking for what
*You go into fixer mode when conflict arises to keep everyone
*You feel overburdened by your responsibilities to others.
Pleasing people feeds off of the guilt associated with advocating for yourself. That guilt blocks you from making the changes you want in your life, which is keeping you stuck in life.
How Does People-Pleasing Keep You Stuck in Life?
People-pleasing can affect three critical areas of life. The first area affected by this faulty thought pattern is your relationships. People-pleasing creates a barrier to intimacy because it prevents you from being your authentic self.